A Few Thoughts…
Hello everyone! It’s a real joy to reconnect with you today with an article that’s more heartfelt and deeper than the technical and psychological pieces I usually share. As many of you know, this blog has been a lifeline for me, helping me navigate through an incredibly difficult period of mourning three years ago. I have to admit, back then, I was looking to purchase an existing blog because I didn’t want to deal with the visual and technical aspects of starting a new one. More importantly, I wanted to get back to writing quickly. After being a journalist for about twelve years, I went back to university to become a therapist. However, daily writing and sharing tips, even though I am a published author, remains a passion for me.
Starting the Blog
It was during my grieving process that I decided to buy this blog, aceparents.com, and I am incredibly proud of what has been accomplished. I’m grateful for all of you who read my articles and contribute so thoughtfully. Today, I want to discuss a sensitive topic: your relationship with toxic individuals and why you should completely cut ties with them.
The Guilt of Cutting Ties with Family
When these toxic people are family members, or in-laws, it can initially trigger a misplaced, illegitimate sense of guilt. Two years ago, I spent a week with a close family member, intending to relax with my husband and children. Instead, it turned into a daily battle with this highly toxic individual. This person, despite being narcissistic, struggles with self-love and harbors resentment towards me for several reasons she has frequently stated: I am slim (she has serious issues with food and is overweight), I have long blonde hair (which she despises), and I never stopped studying because I believe our purpose on earth is to love, laugh, grow, and keep learning.
The Toxic Encounter
This person ridicules others to amuse herself, hasn’t evolved in the fifteen years I’ve known her, and doesn’t believe in the persistence of consciousness as I do. This is another topic she hates me for… She also disapproves of my lifestyle. My husband and I started our own business sixteen years ago to spend more time with our children, and besides my therapy practice, I engage in various creative projects—singing, producing my own records, creating art, and writing. My achievements seem to infuriate her because they challenge her outdated and rigid notions of what a modern mother should be. Despite earning less than I did as an employee before 1999, I am much more fulfilled and happy, which appears to unsettle her.
The Decision to Cut Ties
During that week, she attacked me on all fronts: my appearance, my hair, my clothing style, and my life choices. When I shared my success or plans, she couldn’t hide her envy and jealousy. Her verbal assaults culminated in a remark that stuck with me: “If you knew how little I care about your happiness !” After that week, I decided never to see her again. I discussed it with my loved ones, who supported my decision.
Healing and Moving On
I realized that her presence in my life was causing me harm. I experienced a severe cystitis attack during the drive home, which I now believe was the result of her negative energy. You know that cystitis has a psychological meaning. It’s a territorial battle between women! A battle where she never gives an inch! She is determined to put down every woman she encounters, even if they are her own friends! I sought help from a healer who assured me I was protected and performed an energy cleansing. I then completely removed this toxic person from my life, blocking her and her circle from all my networks.
The Benefits of Distance
During the two years following this decision, my life improved significantly. I was hired to teach social sciences at a high school and university, my vacation rental business flourished, and I found inner peace. Toxic family members often instill a sense of illegitimate guilt, making you hesitate to remove them from your life. But once you overcome this guilt, you feel lighter, happier, and more at peace.
A Final Encounter
Recently, I was invited to a family event and decided to go with a strategy: no eye contact with the toxic person. I presented myself confidently, with a look she despised—sleek blonde hair, a black and elegant outfit, and sunglasses to avoid direct interaction. My transformed appearance and cold demeanor left her speechless and unable to engage. For two hours, she struggled to converse with me. When she finally asked about my life, I gave short, non-committal answers. Before leaving, I casually mentioned that my best friend had offered me these expensive Lancel sunglasses that morning (I saw she was looking at my sunnies all the time trying to see the brand ! ) and that I was now teaching at a prestigious university branch. She was visibly shaken, and we left soon after.
Conclusion
Cutting ties with toxic family members is challenging but necessary for your well-being. Remember, you deserve happiness and peace, and sometimes that means letting go of those who bring negativity into your life.
Silence and absence can make toxic individuals reflect on their behavior. I have learned to love myself completely and no longer tolerate devaluation or judgment from others. If this article resonates with you, please let me know in the comments. I wish you all a wonderful summer. I love you all. May God bless you and each of your projects!
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