Céline is a French sophrologist, author, and consultant-trainer specializing in soft skills. She is a mother of two and successfully balances her career as a therapist and artist.
Parenting is a rewarding journey, but it’s also demanding. For many mothers, the weight of expectations—both internal and societal—can lead to maternal burnout. While this term might sound like just another buzzword, it describes a very real and deeply challenging experience. If you’re a mom wondering why you feel so depleted, you’re not alone. Here’s how to recognize maternal burnout and start reclaiming your well-being.
What is Maternal Burnout?
Maternal burnout goes beyond feeling tired; it’s a state of chronic physical, emotional, and mental exhaustion directly tied to the demands of motherhood. It often stems from the relentless cycle of caregiving without sufficient rest, support, or acknowledgment. Moms experiencing burnout may feel:
- Overwhelmed by everyday parenting tasks.
- Emotionally distant from their children or family.
- Unable to find joy in activities they once loved.
If you’ve felt like you’re running on empty for weeks or months, it might be time to consider whether burnout is the underlying cause.
My two children are 10 years apart. I had my first child at 30 and my second at 40.
With my first child, I experienced quite severe baby blues, which was followed, two years later, by maternal burnout. This was largely due to the fact that my partner at the time completely shifted all responsibilities onto me: managing childhood illnesses, grocery shopping, tidying up—everything. Even though I was working from home as a writer, I woke up every morning feeling blue.
With my second child, my husband (a different father) was constantly present because he was recovering from a work-related injury. As a result, I experienced much less of these feelings.
Today, I work as a therapist, writer, and artist, and my books are also published. Despite this, I still prioritize my children above all else. However, I’ve learned to take time for myself when needed. If I’m completely exhausted, I remind myself that I can’t help anyone in that state.
I encourage each of my readers to recognize that pivotal moment when sleep no longer seems enough to recover, when motivation to get out of bed is absent, even after racking your brain to find something—anything—that might spark a sense of excitement.
I also urge you to rest and carve out moments for yourself (a trip to the spa, shopping, swimming, or a visit to the hairdresser), even if your schedule normally doesn’t allow it.
I need to add an important point: if you are having dark thoughts, distressing ideas, or find yourself mentally imagining all the accidents that could happen, this is another sign of burnout and, in a sense, a reflection of deeply rooted anxiety.
In such cases, I strongly encourage you to reach out to a psychologist to work through and address these intrusive, overwhelming thoughts.
Key Signs of Maternal Burnout
- Exhaustion That Sleep Doesn’t Fix
You’re physically drained even after a full night’s rest (if you can get it). Tasks that were once manageable feel monumental. - Emotional Detachment
You might find yourself less patient or more irritable with your kids. Some moms report feeling like they’re on autopilot, going through the motions without connection. - Guilt or Inadequacy
Feeling like you’re failing as a mom, despite doing everything you can, is a common hallmark. - Physical Symptoms
Burnout can manifest as headaches, digestive issues, or even a weakened immune system. Chronic stress impacts your body as well as your mind. - Loss of Identity
You might feel like you’ve lost sight of who you are outside of being a mom.
What Contributes to Maternal Burnout?
While every mother’s situation is unique, common factors include:
- Unrealistic Expectations: Social media often glorifies “supermoms,” creating pressure to do it all.
- Lack of Support: Whether it’s a partner, family, or community, feeling isolated amplifies stress.
- Perfectionism: Many moms feel they must meet impossible standards in parenting, career, and relationships.
- No Time for Self-Care: When every waking hour is spent meeting others’ needs, there’s no space left for your own.
What to Do If You Suspect Burnout
- Acknowledge Your Feelings
The first step is recognizing that you’re not “just tired” or “bad at this.” Burnout is a real, legitimate condition that requires attention. - Ask for Help
Reaching out to your partner, family, or friends isn’t a sign of weakness—it’s a way to strengthen your support system. - Set Boundaries
It’s okay to say no. Limit commitments that drain your energy, and delegate tasks when possible. - Prioritize Rest and Self-Care
Even small moments for yourself—reading, meditating, or taking a walk—can make a big difference. - Seek Professional Support
If feelings of burnout persist, consider talking to a therapist. They can help you develop coping strategies tailored to your needs.
You’re Not Alone
Motherhood isn’t supposed to be easy, and admitting that doesn’t make you less of a mom—it makes you human. Recognizing maternal burnout is the first step toward recovery, and with the right support, you can find your way back to feeling like yourself again.
Remember: taking care of yourself is one of the best ways to take care of your family.
Have you experienced symptoms of maternal burnout? Share your story or tips in the comments below—your journey might inspire another mom to seek the help she needs.
