As parents, we strive to provide our children with the tools and confidence to navigate life with joy, resilience, and kindness. While actions often speak louder than words, the words we choose to say to our children can leave lasting impressions. Here are three simple yet powerful phrases to say regularly to your child that can help build their emotional foundation and contribute to a lifetime of happiness.
When you’re a young mom, you might not always realize this: growing up, awakening, moving forward, and navigating society are acts of courage. It takes motivation, determination, and a great deal of bravery for a small child to face situations every day that even we sometimes struggle to confront at work or in society!
Everything you feel in the face of criticism, hurtful words, or interactions with unkind or dishonest people—your child feels it a thousand times more intensely! Let’s put ourselves in the shoes of these little beings who are in constant development, and let’s encourage them by offering not just the right words but words that uplift them and truly resonate.
1. “I Love You, No Matter What”
The unconditional love of a parent is the bedrock of a child’s sense of security and self-worth. By saying “I love you, no matter what,” you’re reinforcing the idea that your love isn’t contingent on their achievements, behavior, or circumstances.
This phrase assures your child that they are valued for who they are, not just for what they do. Even when they face failure or make mistakes, knowing your love is unwavering helps them feel safe to explore, learn, and grow.
- When to say it: After an argument, during quiet moments, or simply as part of your daily routine.
2. “I’m Proud of You”
Children thrive when they feel seen and appreciated. Telling your child, “I’m proud of you,” helps boost their confidence and sense of accomplishment. Importantly, focus on praising their efforts, character, and progress rather than just their results.
For example, instead of only celebrating a high grade, praise the effort they put into studying. Recognize qualities like kindness, creativity, and perseverance. This helps them value internal growth and resilience over external validation.
- When to say it: After they’ve tried something challenging, when they demonstrate positive values, or even for small daily victories.
3. “How Can I Help You?”
This question signals your willingness to support and listen without judgment. It invites your child to share their struggles, dreams, or even the little things that occupy their thoughts.
By regularly offering help, you show them that they don’t have to face life’s challenges alone. Over time, this fosters trust and encourages them to seek support when they need it, rather than bottling up emotions or problems.
- When to say it: When they seem upset, overwhelmed, or even when they’re working on something independently.
The Magic of Repetition
Words have power, but it’s consistency that makes them transformative. Saying these phrases regularly helps them become part of your child’s internal dialogue. As they grow, they’ll carry these affirmations with them, creating a deep-rooted sense of self-love, resilience, and optimism.
Parenting doesn’t come with a manual, but small, intentional choices like this can have a big impact. Try weaving these phrases into your daily interactions, and watch your child blossom into a confident, happy individual—one loving word at a time.
What are your go-to phrases to uplift your child? Share them in the comments below!
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Céline is a mother, a wife, a therapist, and an artist. She is also a writer. After contributing for 20 years to collective works and radio programs on topics related to Well-being and Psychology, she now writes her own books.
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